Can men love a relationship to death?

Love; it is still one of the most powerful things in a relationship.  I don’t know when it shifted but it has.  What men are choosing to love is damaging their relationships like never before.  It used to seem like it was their jobs.  Allowing it to take so much time it didn’t allow enough time and energy to properly connect with their wives.  Some have even said it’s their dog considering it is supposed to be their best friend.  It is probably even true in some cases.  Like taking care of the leaves of the plant and wondering why the plant dies men stopped loving who she is at her core and started to love the woman’s feelings instead. 

When the woman has negative feelings about a problem, the men try to fix the feeling which is one of the top complaints I hear.  When women share something the feel about life the men try to address that too.  On the surface it doesn’t sound so bad.  However, what both people may not realize is when the man chooses to make the woman feel good over love her as a person they both begin and endless chase worse than man’s best friend and its tale.

A woman’s feelings can change and shift throughout life.  What they used to feel about one thing can change dramatically with experience, perspective, or even frequency.  A rose on a first date can elicit wonderful feelings.  A rose every date will not likely get the same response 6 months later.  In fact, it might even create a negative feeling.  After a while the woman can disconnect to her feelings and not feel genuinely loved.  As much as many women say they want to feel good, they most often want to be just loved for who they are.  

Loving the person allows a man to get to know who she is therefore what creates her feelings.  Over a time while a woman wants to feel good, she wants to be loved and cherished.  Loving her requires  a man to know her well enough to be able to hold her accountable when she is in error, encourage her when she is struggling, and congratulate her when she over comes a significant hurdle.  Paying attention to how she feels about those things is important but who she is the connection she needs to grow and feel cherished.

When the man is following her feelings she will be less likely to follow him. Loving her requires taking care of her at her core and allowing her to bloom.  So instead, try showing her you love her more than her feelings because she is MORE than her feelings.