Believe in the comeback

“The people who lose the most are the ones who know in their hearts, they gave up first.”
-TUG-

History has shown us some of the greatest sports stories are about the big comeback. When it looks like there is no chance of winning and the fans start leaving, something happens. It starts when one person decides it’s not over and success is only a matter of time. Their battle cries are the same. “We can do it.” “I believe.” And afterwards they say the same things. “I knew if we just kept trying and gave ourselves a chance we could do it.” “We just never gave up.” They believe in the comeback.

Why is it so important in relationships and marriage in particular? Believing in the comeback does several things. For one, it instantly gives value to both people. It doesn’t rely on one person to save the team but the team to save itself. Everyone has a role to play because there are no spectators on the winning team. Two, it gives the team something worth fighting for together. A house divided falls on itself but a common enemy can make allies of those at odds. Sometimes all it takes to get on the right track of rebuilding a great relationship is being on the same side of a fight. Third and most powerful, believing in the comeback opens the world of possibilities and capitalizes on the laws of probabilities. It gives the couple every possible chance at something great. It builds on anything good to make things better. It creates momentum where there was none. Whether it is a lucky bounce or a fluke compliment, it only takes one step in the right direction to build a path and create a journey.

One of the saddest things I have seen is when people give up before the game or relationship is over. They are the first ones blame others and point out that failure is a possibility. They give up when things are good and are even ahead simply because something goes wrong. Their battle cries are the same. “We’ll never make it.” “Why bother trying, it’s pointless.” And afterwards they say the same things. “I knew this would happen.” “I should have never even tried in the first place.” They want a comeback they don’t even believe in.

Please share your favorite comeback in the comments and inspire others.