Fall Out of Love

While it seems easy to fall in love, especially according to Hollywood, what happens when the romance of the century or just a good relationship goes bad?  The feelings don’t just go away they linger.  There is almost this invisible force that pulls you back into the relationship.  It may even feel like the person has this magical string tied to your heart and you can’t break away.  I’ve seen people hold on for years and years without ever being able to let go of the love.  So how do you fall out of love?  Above all else you must choose to stop acting on the feeling.  But until then these three steps will get you started.

1.  Stop feeding the love.  The loving thoughts, and loving gestures you once gave them, cease.  Even in great relationships when the love stops getting fed, it dies off naturally.

2.  Refocus on what your life purpose is if you know it.  If not, focus on the qualities you enjoy the most about yourself.  Allow the love you once gave to them to flow into you.

3.  Allow yourself the time to grieve the emotions and heal.  This process is different for everyone.

The more invested in the relationship the more you become conditioned to being with that person.  The phone calls, text, the time spent.  Almost like an addiction, your body and mind become conditioned to feeling that connection.  When the person is no longer, the desire for the connection remains almost creating and internal revolt.  These three steps are designed to break the ties from the person that create the attraction and connection.